Why care about who is right? Can we mutually explore what is right?

A learner by choice and teacher-trainer by convenience. I love to examine conventions, beliefs and ideas, read books, interact with individuals and groups, pen down my thoughts, and work with people to help make difficult things easy.

Yes, I explore ideas, patterns, cause-effect relationship, 'I told you so' attitudes, and 'who are you to question my system?' defences. The idea is not to break down or replace systems, but to integrate knowledge represented by different ways of thinking. 


This involves breaking down systems into building blocks, and then putting them together with a wider perspective. What I refer to as integrational questioning rather than destructive rhetoric.

It is not important for me as to who is right or wrong; I am exploring what is right or wrong. Usually, arguments arise due to rigid views and unclear communication (and these two form a mutual admiration 
society.)  


90 percent of arguments happen due to hidden assumptions, poor expression,  and poorer listening skills. Today, living in a complex world that we barely understand, we need more of clear communication and mutual respect to resolve issues and come to a  sconsensus.


International affairs or personal relationships, we need mutual assuarances that we are here to co-operate rather than to score brownie points. Win win thinking is based on the belief 'I'm ok; you are ok; the  world is ok". I can work with you to reach my goals, and you too can work with me to reach your goals. 


I want to help you. Can you help me to help you? Can you unlock my shackles so that my  hands are free to help?  

Life is a Paradox: A paradox of Parables

Opposite Proverbs(Choose the appropriate one for the occasion)

A man's reach should exceed his grasp. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Above all, to thine own self be true. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. It's never too late to learn. You can't teach an old dog new tricks. Good things come in small packages. The bigger, the better. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. There's no point in beating a dead horse.

1..Tough times never last, but tough people do.  - Robert H Schuller

2. The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how you use them. – Unknown

3. Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don’t pray when it rains if you don’t pray when the sun shines.  -Leroy Satchel Paige

4. A problem is a chance for you to do your best. – Duke Ellington

5. I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders. – Jewish Proverb