Thursday, 14 April 2011

Why care about who is right? Can we mutually explore what is right?

A learner by choice and teacher-trainer by convenience. I love to examine conventions, beliefs and ideas, read books, interact with individuals and groups, pen down my thoughts, and work with people to help make difficult things easy.

Yes, I explore ideas, patterns, cause-effect relationship, 'I told you so' attitudes, and 'who are you to question my system?' defences. The idea is not to break down or replace systems, but to integrate knowledge represented by different ways of thinking. 

This involves breaking down systems into building blocks, and then putting them together with a wider perspective. What I refer to as integrational questioning rather than destructive rhetoric.

It is not important for me as to who is right or wrong; I am exploring what is right or wrong. Usually, arguments arise due to rigid views and unclear communication (and these two form a mutual admiration 

90 percent of arguments happen due to hidden assumptions, poor expression,  and poorer listening skills. Today, living in a complex world that we barely understand, we need more of clear communication and mutual respect to resolve issues and come to a  sconsensus.

International affairs or personal relationships, we need mutual assuarances that we are here to co-operate rather than to score brownie points. Win win thinking is based on the belief 'I'm ok; you are ok; the  world is ok". I can work with you to reach my goals, and you too can work with me to reach your goals. 

I want to help you. Can you help me to help you? Can you unlock my shackles so that my  hands are free to help?  

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